The older I get, the more I realize things change–and yet also remain the same in a continuous cycle.
Old timers from back in the Blogspot era will recall I used to write Dark and Early. I would get up between 5 and 6 AM to write before I had to get the kids up for school. Even if I only got a couple of hundred words, I would still head into the day feeling accomplished. I had a start on the day before anyone could make demands on my time or energy.
It was MY time.
I’ve been a retiree from the Evil Day Job for over a year now, and I admit, the second thing I did–after removing all the emergency bypass notices on my coworkers’ phone numbers and deleting the Production Support hotline extension (though I still remember it. It’s probably forever etched into my brain)–was turn off ALL of my alarms. My guilty pleasure became lying in bed after I woke up and just drifting. Relaxing. Luxuriating in the realization that I didn’t have to get up. My time was my own. I could scroll on my phone if I wanted without scrambling up to brush my teeth and log in before I even made coffee.
I’ve enjoyed those long, lazy mornings. Most days, I was still waking up between 7-8 but I could lie in bed until 9 if I wanted. On the rare occasion, I would even sleep until 10 AM and then jump up, guilty that I had slept so very long. I could stay up until 1 or 2 AM if I wanted. To finish the first draft of Queen’s Purge, I even stayed up until 3:30 AM.
Great. I loved it.
But.
I started losing time during the day. Instead of getting started working by 10 AM, I found myself getting distracted by a million things. Dad almost always stops by at some point between 9-11 AM for a visit. Inevitably, with perfect timing, he would show up exactly when I’d just started a sprint. Sometimes I would go outside with him and visit some more. Oftentimes in my garden while we pick okra.
Or I would check my email and then suddenly find myself shopping or scrolling or doing admin work instead of writing. Then it’s time for lunch.
Mom calls me right before I get to my afternoon sprints.
My daughter gets off work at 2PM and loves to call me on the way home from work. Or she’s headed to class and has just a few minutes to chat.
My friend from the EDJ calls me on her drive home from the office, usually around 4 or 5.
Or maybe I need to drive into Osceola and take packages to the Post Office, which is at least a 45 min round trip. I definitely need to get there before 4:30, but earlier is better to avoid the school traffic, which I pass on the way into the square.
And suddenly, it’s time for dinner and Honey Bun’s lap time, and I haven’t even opened Scrivener.
This is not a complaint. I love that I’m in contact with all my family and friends. I love that I have time now to drive people to their doctor appointments or to take care of them after surgeries without worrying I might be on support or have to take my laptop. Or maybe it’s quarter end and I can’t even get time off.
But I’m also a highly driven person. I have goals, damn it. I take it seriously when I don’t hit those word count goals. Over and over and over. It’s demoralizing.
As I said in my newsletter, 9/1 is a reset “New Year” for me. This year, I decided to make a drastic change. I turned my alarm back on for 6 AM. It’s still dark so it’s technically “Dark and Early” and certainly no one is stopping by or texting me that early. Dad might start texting me now that he knows I’m up that early, but generally it’s MY time. I make coffee, and do some stretches and light exercises while it brews. I do my morning pages in my journal. And then by 7 AM, I’m ready to get to work.
So by the time I would’ve been crawling out of bed… I’ve already gotten at least an hour or two of work done. Regardless of who shows up, calls/texts, or who has doctor appointments… I’ve gotten some words.
It’s hard, not gonna lie. I have to argue with myself about keeping that alarm on almost every day. I slept terrible last night, but I still woke myself up at 5:30 AM this morning. I lay there, contemplating turning the alarm off to go back to sleep. But instead, I got up, and I got to work.
Dark and Early for the win.
I don’t know how long I’ll be able to keep it up. At least until I finish the two books I’m currently working on. I’d like to get them both done and released by Nov/Dec this year. Then, I’ll take a break.
I’m also contemplating some other changes. I’ll let you know how that goes in a future post.

